How to keep love in your relationship and make it grow?

Now that the person of your dreams has come into your life, the only thing left to do is to live your dreams with him/her! Always keep affirming your love to each other, not just verbally but in action and in thought. Appreciate your partner, tell him/her what you admire about them, show your love through gestures. Most of all, you must grow in friendship. Talk to each other, help each other, think about each other. Afford your partner his/her freedom, trust him/her. Be patient about their limitations, highlight their qualities. Just by doing these simple things, the love in your relationship will grow more and more each day.

How to welcome love into your life when you find it?

If you keep emitting the 'love energy' we earlier discussed, you will inevitably find love! But there's a catch. When you do find him/her, you will notice that he/she is not perfect. There were aspects you had never thought about and you will find them to be unpleasant about that person. But think about it, are you perfect? Of course not! Therefore, be grateful for all those wonderful qualities which he/she already possesses. Admire their qualities and ignore their shortcomings. That is the only way you will be able to grow in love and in life.

How to love your physical self?

Now let's not get this wrong. We are not condoning narcissism here. Our bodies are a bridge between the physical and the spiritual plane. Therefore, we must respect this instrument. We must use it prudently and maintain it as well as we can. We must love ourselves by giving our bodies good nutrition so that it remains healthy and beautiful. Also, we communicate with the rest of the world through our five sensory organs:eyes, nose, ears, mouth and skin. We must make sure that we use all these organs for creating positive vibrations. We must be clean, well groomed to be pleasant to look at. We should be smelling good so we feel good about ourselves and others feel good about us. We must be compassionate listeners when someone wants to share their feelings. We must speak softly and kind words to make people around us feel better than they were feeling before and we must not be shy in showing our affection to people we love by giving them a hug or a friendly pat!

How to love yourself mentally?

To love ourselves we must apply objective reason. We are all born with our own set of gifts. To love ourselves in our mind , we must first acknowledge these gifts that set us apart in this world. We must be honest to ourselves about our talents. Our mental faculties are developed in unique areas and we all have the potential to live a life we always dreamed of. Therefore, we must first accept our areas of talent and be grateful for them. We all have qualities that are lovable and admirable. Enhance those qualities and love yourself for them. It can be a small acknowledgement like "I am a good swimmer", or "I am a good listener." But it is important.

How to grow spiritually?

Spiritual growth comes from introspection. A connection with yourself. If we were asked who we really are, can you honestly answer that question with clarity? What kind of a person are you? What will you leave behind as a legacy in this world? What will people remember about you long after you are gone? Who are you really? We must meditate on these questions.

Also, we must become more aware of our actions and their consequences. We must think of ourselves as higher beings with potential for doing good. We must think about how we can make a positive impact on the lives of the people we touch. If you start feeling kindly towards other people, they will start feeling the same way about you. You don't even have to tell them how you feel. Remember, these transactions can take place on the spiritual plane in the form of energy!

How to love yourself?

Every human being has three personalities: Spiritual, mental and physical. If we love all of these three personalities of ourselves, we are surely on the path to finding true love and our soul mate. Now one may argue that if we are spiritual beings, then why should it matter how our bodies look. Well, it doesn't. It only matters to the extent it matters in your own perception. If looks are truly not important for you, you don't need to worry about it. The important thing to learn here is that you will only receive if you are capable to give. If you don't mind a shabby looking soul mate, you can continue to be shabby yourself. But if you want him/her to be well groomed, you should first be ready to offer that.

Grooming yourself spiritually, mentally and physically will lead to a positive self image. A positive self image will lead to a firm belief that you deserve a partner who commensurates with your personality, and belief has the power of prayer. You will start emitting energy to attract your Mr./Miss.Right!

Who you need to be to find love?

Now that we have understood what love is, we must understand what are the qualities we need to have to be loved. First, we must remember that we are spiritual beings and spirit is nothing but energy. A person endowed with any spiritual or noble qualities(goal orientation, hard work, generosity, kindness, cultivated skills/mind) will most likely be in a happier state of mind and therefore be emitting positive energy. Such people will most likely have a positive self image of themselves and therefore attract positive energy from people around them because 'like attracts like'. Such people will most likely be popular and achievers.

However, not digressing from our topic of finding love, the important thing for us to understand is that to find love we first must have a positive self image. We must be able to love ourselves before anyone else can love us. Because if we love ourselves, we will emit energy that will attract love.

What is love?

We must first understand that everything in this world works with energy. All transactions are an exchange of energy. Only when we look at this world from a deeper perspective will we be able to understand that all beings on earth are first spiritual then material.

Among all spiritual beings there exists attraction. This is due to the spiritual qualities within each of us like nobility, honesty, generosity, loyalty etc. However, attraction is greater between beings emitting 'like' vibrations. Love is defined by how we feel with the person we are in love with. Love is a feeling of comfort and comfort comes from familiarity, likeness. Friction of ideas can only cause disharmony and lack of love. Also, we feel loved when we are treasured, when we are treated in a way that makes us feel special, cared for and admired. Love is loyalty, friendship, care, comfort, respect and admiration wrapped in one.

If we have a clear understanding of what we are looking for(in this case love) isn't it easier to find it? There are numerous love stories which stand as a testament to this theory. Our problem is that we have a romanticized concept of love, which is true, but, we imagine it as a precondition rather than the destination reached after an enlightening journey. Due to this misguided idealism innumerable marriages and relationships have broken up and many romances burned down. Yet, I tell to all those who are broken hearted that there is hope. Everything they have dreamed of love can come true, the only virtue required of them is patience.