Love and courage

We have often read in books and heard on TV that love demands courage, however the situations and impressions embedded in our minds about love are such a far cry from reality that we hardly find such theatrics palatable.Yet the essence of the thought remains true. Love does require courage, not of the simplistic, fairytale variety administered to us by the media but one that prompts us to release our inhibitions and relinquish our egos. In love, courageous are the ones who initiate, who hold out their hand first, who forgive, who surrender, who are not afraid to take the blow. If we want to see the miracle of love, we must be the miracle ourselves. We must nurture the relationship, make things happen, live life large, create time and space for the special one in our life, not wait for things to happen. The one's who are afraid cannot love and the one's who love are not afraid.

How to handle disagreements in a relationship?

The answer to this question sounds simple but it takes a lot of growth and patience to put it into practice. Let me ask you something, how do you put out fire? By pouring water over it. Similarly, we must learn to handle disagreements not by further causing more friction and with raging tempers, but peacefully and civilly. And what must we do? We must start by talking about something we agree upon. Create a common ground. Feel like a team. Then broach the topic of disagreement. You might or might not reach a conclusion you both fully agree upon, but will certainly not end the discussion in a hostile fashion. Again, remember the thousands of good things about your relationship and small sacrifices will fade in comparison to the indestructible beauty and stability of your relationship!

How to keep love in your relationship and make it grow?

Now that the person of your dreams has come into your life, the only thing left to do is to live your dreams with him/her! Always keep affirming your love to each other, not just verbally but in action and in thought. Appreciate your partner, tell him/her what you admire about them, show your love through gestures. Most of all, you must grow in friendship. Talk to each other, help each other, think about each other. Afford your partner his/her freedom, trust him/her. Be patient about their limitations, highlight their qualities. Just by doing these simple things, the love in your relationship will grow more and more each day.

How to welcome love into your life when you find it?

If you keep emitting the 'love energy' we earlier discussed, you will inevitably find love! But there's a catch. When you do find him/her, you will notice that he/she is not perfect. There were aspects you had never thought about and you will find them to be unpleasant about that person. But think about it, are you perfect? Of course not! Therefore, be grateful for all those wonderful qualities which he/she already possesses. Admire their qualities and ignore their shortcomings. That is the only way you will be able to grow in love and in life.

How to love your physical self?

Now let's not get this wrong. We are not condoning narcissism here. Our bodies are a bridge between the physical and the spiritual plane. Therefore, we must respect this instrument. We must use it prudently and maintain it as well as we can. We must love ourselves by giving our bodies good nutrition so that it remains healthy and beautiful. Also, we communicate with the rest of the world through our five sensory organs:eyes, nose, ears, mouth and skin. We must make sure that we use all these organs for creating positive vibrations. We must be clean, well groomed to be pleasant to look at. We should be smelling good so we feel good about ourselves and others feel good about us. We must be compassionate listeners when someone wants to share their feelings. We must speak softly and kind words to make people around us feel better than they were feeling before and we must not be shy in showing our affection to people we love by giving them a hug or a friendly pat!

How to love yourself mentally?

To love ourselves we must apply objective reason. We are all born with our own set of gifts. To love ourselves in our mind , we must first acknowledge these gifts that set us apart in this world. We must be honest to ourselves about our talents. Our mental faculties are developed in unique areas and we all have the potential to live a life we always dreamed of. Therefore, we must first accept our areas of talent and be grateful for them. We all have qualities that are lovable and admirable. Enhance those qualities and love yourself for them. It can be a small acknowledgement like "I am a good swimmer", or "I am a good listener." But it is important.

How to grow spiritually?

Spiritual growth comes from introspection. A connection with yourself. If we were asked who we really are, can you honestly answer that question with clarity? What kind of a person are you? What will you leave behind as a legacy in this world? What will people remember about you long after you are gone? Who are you really? We must meditate on these questions.

Also, we must become more aware of our actions and their consequences. We must think of ourselves as higher beings with potential for doing good. We must think about how we can make a positive impact on the lives of the people we touch. If you start feeling kindly towards other people, they will start feeling the same way about you. You don't even have to tell them how you feel. Remember, these transactions can take place on the spiritual plane in the form of energy!